When it comes to dating as a Christian, questions are your friend. By asking the right questions (at the right time), you can help make sure you’re on the right path, dating the right person, and keeping your heart safe (Prov 4:23).

Today, we’re going to look at three main categories of Christian dating questions with tons of examples to help you on your journey. We’ll start by looking at questions you should ask yourself. Then, we’ll look at questions you can ask the man or woman you’re dating (or thinking about dating). And finally, we’ll look at questions you can ask God during your prayer time.

Let’s get into it!

Questions to Ask Yourself

Christian dating questions are an incredible tool you can use to make sure you’re on the right path when it comes to dating. Whether you are just starting the dating process, or you’re already dating someone, using questions as a self-audit is a fabulous technique.

Below, we’ve shared some Christian dating questions for both scenarios.

If you’re getting ready to start dating…

1. Am I seeking a relationship out of loneliness, pressure, or genuine readiness?
2. Have I prayed about the kind of person God wants me to be with?
3. Am I becoming the kind of person I’m hoping to attract?
4. Do I know my non-negotiable values and boundaries before I start dating?
5. Am I content with where God has me right now, even if I’m not in a relationship yet?
6. Would a relationship right now draw me closer to God or distract me from Him?
7. Have I forgiven past hurts or relationships that might affect a new one?
8. Do I have a clear understanding of what a Christ-centered relationship looks like?
9. Am I surrounding myself with wise, godly friends who can hold me accountable?
10. Have I spent time learning how to communicate, set boundaries, and love in healthy ways?
11. Am I open to God’s timing, even if it looks different from what I expected?
12. Would I recognize it if God closed a door on a relationship I wanted?
13. Am I prepared to honor God in how I date, not just in who I date?
14. Have I asked God to guide my heart more than my emotions or desires?

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If you’re already dating someone…

1. Is our relationship built on biblical truths and principles?
2. Am I still putting God first and this relationship second?
3. What steps can we take to avoid or better handle situations of temptation in the future?
4. Have I compromised any of my morals or values for this relationship?
5. Are there Christian friends or mentors I can ask for honest insight about our relationship?
6. How am I influencing my partner’s spiritual growth?
7. Is there something I could do differently to make this relationship more fruitful?
8. Are there things we’re doing that might not honor God?
9. Is this person truly aligned with what God wants for my life?
10. Am I genuinely happy, and is my partner genuinely happy?
11. What are we doing that’s strengthening both our relationship and our faith?
12. Have we faced moments of temptation where we knew our choices weren’t right?
13. Is this person helping me grow spiritually or holding me back?

Why These Questions Matter

When dating as a Christian, it’s so important to be equally yoked (2 Cor. 6:14). In other words, you should be dating someone who you are in lock-step with when it comes to what’s important to you and your faith. It’s impossible to know if you’re equally yoked with someone if you don’t first know where you stand.

This knowledge is invaluable when it comes to the dating process.

Questions to Ask Your Date

The next batch of Christian dating questions we want to look at are questions you can ask your date! These are questions you could use on a first date, second date, tenth date, or whenever. As you’ll see, these questions are designed to be conversational but still forward enough to really make sure you’re getting some valuable information that can help you evaluate if the relationship is one that is going to work.

1. Where do you usually attend church, and what do you like most about it?
2. Have you always been part of the same denomination, or has that changed over time?
3. How central is your faith in your day-to-day life?
4. Would you feel comfortable sharing a little of your faith story or testimony?
5. Do you spend time in a small group or Bible study during the week?
6. How does prayer fit into your daily routine or relationship with God?
7. What’s something about your church community that really encourages your faith?
8. Have your family and friends been supportive of your walk with Christ?
9. What’s the most challenging part of living out your faith?
10. What’s one thing you love most about being a Christian?
11. Do you ever volunteer or serve in your church or community?
12. When did your faith start to feel personal to you rather than just something you grew up with?
13. What does purity in a relationship mean to you?
14. How do you view premarital intimacy?
15. Where do you stand on topics like alcohol or drugs from a faith perspective?
16. What are your beliefs about managing money, debt, and tithing as a Christian?
17. Have you ever dated someone who didn’t share your beliefs? What did you learn from that experience?
18. How do you see faith influencing the kind of family you want to build someday?
19. What are you most passionate about in life right now?
20. What does a Christ-centered relationship look like to you?
21. Is there anything about Christian dating that makes you nervous?
22. Is there anything about Christian dating that excites you or gives you hope?
23. How do you like to grow spiritually through reading, worship, serving, or something else?
24. Do you feel most connected to God through quiet time, community, or worship?
25. Have you ever struggled with any part of your faith or had a season of doubt?
26. What role do you think faith should play in a dating relationship?
27. What do you think makes two people spiritually compatible?
28. How do you hope your future partner will support your faith journey?
29. What helps you stay grounded in your faith when life gets stressful?
30. What’s something God has been teaching you lately?

By asking these deeper questions (instead of just surface level small talk), you get to the heart of who you are.

Tips for Success With these Questions

• Don’t treat these as an interview. – When you ask these questions, make sure you’re not treating it like a job interview. Yes, you want to get the answers to these questions, but remember that it’s a two-way conversation.
• Be prepared to answer yourself. – Speaking of a two-way conversation, you should also be prepared to share your answers! It’s not just about if they’re right for you, but also if you’re right for them. It’s a relationship, not a one-way-ship.
• Don’t be put off if they take a while to answer some of these. – Some of these questions are fairly deep and might take them a little while to answer. Realize that this is okay. It shouldn’t be seen as a red flag, unless it’s a simpler question like ‘how often do you go to church’.

Questions to Ask God

Lastly, we want to share Christian dating questions you can use in your prayer time with God. These questions are designed to help you get a better pulse on how things are going and what (if any) changes you need to make.

Our humble advice here is to make sure you don’t just ask, but ask and listen. And if you feel like you’re getting an answer that is not what you hoped for, pray for the courage to listen and apply that answer to your romantic life.

1. God, is this the right season for me to be in a relationship?
2. Is this person truly the one you’ve prepared for me?
3. Does this relationship align with the plans and purpose you have for my life?
4. Are we moving at a pace that honors your timing?
5. What can I do to strengthen my spiritual life and grow closer to you?
6. What can I do to help my partner grow spiritually and deepen their faith?
7. Is there anything in this relationship that needs to change so it better reflects your will?