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David J.

    Great question @mgold65. My thoughts are similar to what @GOMSU32 said. As a guy, it is important for me to assume the initiative and take the lead, and I like to establish that early. I think this is actually a Biblical principle. In marriage, men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the Church (see Ephesians 5). This behavior manifests in many ways, but one way for a man to show this (especially in dating) is by taking the risks, making the sacrifices, etc on behalf of the woman he is interested in.

    Would I be offended if a girl asked me out? No, and I might even be relieved (certainly flattered). But I would feel like I missed an opportunity to take the lead early. From a guy’s perspective, I think one of the best things a girl can do to get a guy interested is intentionally starting friendly conversations with him (this is really great if you single him out in a crowd), giving him a genuine compliment, showing interest in something he is passionate about, etc. Any single guy with good sense would love that type of interaction! Sometimes we just need a gentle “nudge” to know the lady is interested and open.

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