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David J.

    I am an introvert by nature and usually enjoy time alone, so I probably handle loneliness differently than others. Having said that, there’s a difference between being alone and feeling alone. As a guy, I was surprised to find how much I needed to build a strong community with other guys my own age to give me a sense of companionship, purpose, and accountability. Having an older, trusted confident to share with and seek counsel from has also been a huge blessing. It’s also interesting how God has used my times of loneliness to increase my sensitivity to other lonely people at church, work, etc. Now I seek them out and try to engage them in conversation, knowing how much a kind word and genuine interest can mean.

    I wish I had a better answer about patience, and finding discernment/peace regarding God’s will for me and marriage. The funny thing about patience is, by definition, you can’t shortcut it or take the fast-track! For me, I keep coming back to the fact that when I don’t know or understand God’s will, I rest in what I do know. I know God is my Heavenly Father who delights in His children, desires for me to have joyful, abundant life, and deserves my trust and obedience. For now, that means faithfully working “in the trenches” and seeking opportunities to serve, wherever He leads.

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