Dating is all about making decisions. Is this the right person for me? Should I message this person? Do I like this person? What kind of guy or gal is right for me?
All of these questions can feel a bit overwhelming! Today, we want to talk about what to do when you’re feeling lost or unsure about a decision in your dating life.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” – James 1:5
James does an incredible job of reaffirming such an important tenant of our relationship with God. God is gracious. God provides. And when we cast our cares on him, he gives generously. Specifically here, James is talking about asking God for wisdom, to which He will graciously give to us.
So, what does this mean practically? It means when you have a tough or confusing decision in your dating life—pray. Ask God to provide you wisdom specifically about the topic you’re struggling with.
From there, listen. Wait for God to provide you the wisdom you need to make the appropriate decision.
And here’s an often-overlooked aspect of listening to God. Make sure you’re doing it with an openness to whatever He has to say to you. For example, let’s say you meet a guy or a gal that you think is awesome. They’re attractive, smart, funny—all the good stuff. Except, they aren’t very active in their Church and may be on a slightly different spiritual trajectory than you are. You want them to be the right person for you, but you’re not sure.
In your mind, you know you should ask God for wisdom on the topic. Great! However, what if you are listening but only trying to find answers that match what you want to happen? If you do this, you might ignore (intentionally or not) things that give you an answer you’re not happy with.
Go to the Lord for wisdom, but leave your preconceived thoughts about what is right at the door. We promise you that He knows best.
As a closing note—in an upcoming article, we’ll talk about another way that you can get answers, which involves the use of strong Godly council. But above all else, seeking wisdom from God is your number one approach.
📝 Here’s Some Reflection Questions:
- Do I have a plan for what to do when I have a tough relationship or dating decision? Does it include prayer? Does it include seeking strong Godly council?
- When you’re asking God for wisdom, are you doing it with an open mind and an open heart to whatever He says?
- What are some dating decisions you’ve struggled with in the past? How did you handle them?
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